Talking with Your Partner about Going Nomadic

How to live a nomadic lifestyle
How to live a nomadic lifestyle

Although I had known for at least ten years that I’d eventually live a nomadic lifestyle, my husband certainly had never thought about a real, full-time, nomadic life for more than a few minutes prior to meeting me. Talking to him about going nomadic and how to live a nomadic lifestyle was an interesting conversation.

In college, he had done his “road trip in a van” adventures and as a career sales person, he’d grown to love his mileage perks which he hacked for vacations and non-work travel. He had also had a job where he didn’t own a home, traveling from worksite to worksite for 18 months. He had good nomad chops, but could he really go nomadic? Full time? For, like, possibly ever?

No Flinching Here. We Start With “When” for our Nomadic Life

Set a date for your nomadic life
Set a date for your nomadic life

Fortunately, when I talked about my dream of living a nomadic lifestyle, he didn’t flinch. He was curious. We started talking. We explored the Who, What, When, Where, Why and How of the issue. Who was easy. Steve and I. Getting through all the 5 Ws and one H of nomadic life was important for us to discuss our future nomad lifestyle and our nomadic retirement.

Originally the conversation started as a plan to live abroad once our youngest daughter finishes high school. Serendipitously, her graduation date and his retirement date coincide. Although I was anxious to become nomadic sooner (read about my 4-month nomadic adventure to Latin America in 2019) and my finances allow for it, my parenting role does not. I feel the parental pull to maintain a home for our daughter until she leaves for college.

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We set the date. Fall 2021.  We found our “When.” But what would we be doing and where would we go as full time nomads?

Let’s Live Abroad in our Retired Nomad Life

As we started discussing the ideas of living abroad, we soon learned that several countries had cities that met our criteria. That criteria for a nomadic life abroad included:

Nomadic life criteria
Nomadic life criteria

Quickly, our live-abroad plan turned nomadic. Why not invest at least two years traveling to cities that met our criteria and make an adventure out of it? Our “Why” had been found regarding our nomadic retirement.

The Nomadic Budget Question, or How?

The conversation turned to the “How” of the question. Steve and I openly talk about money between the two of us, and because we had come from divorces, we had decided when we first met to keep our money in our own accounts. We maintain our own budgets, we split expenses on household items, we each pay our own kids’ expenses, and we share travel expenses.

We started to research how much we should budget for our retirement life as nomads, and we came to agreement about how much we would each contribute monthly (which we’ll discuss in later posts.) Once we determined our budget, we looked at the lifestyle it would support, and committed to the plan. I was ready; Steve needed 18 more months before he felt comfortable.

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At the time we had this conversation, our departure date was about two years out. Simultaneously, we also actively got involved in the world of travel hacking by applying for credit cards that rewarded us with lots of airline miles. We began banking thousands of miles to reserve for future trips to help us buy down the expense of travel. Luckily we timed our credit-card project prior to the COVID shutdown of many of these sign-on bonuses. By discussing our finances, building a budget, and banking airline mileage, we fleshed out our “How.” Our nomadic retirement was starting to firm up.

Where Did We Want to Go in our Nomad Life?

Pick a place in your nomad life
Pick a place in your nomad life

These conversations lead us to the next big conversation about “Where.” We knew that we wanted to depart the US on a flight paid for by mileage. In order to get seats with reward travel, we would have to book our flights almost 300 days prior to our departure. With a departure of September 2021, we would have to figure out the first part of our nomadic plan and book its first flight in October 2020.

Thus, in September 2019, we holed up in an Airbnb in the Colorado mountains to watch the aspens turn color and to draft out a rough itinerary. A friend had developed this amazing spread sheet of the world’s temperatures, and we started working it. Since we have both traveled extensively (I’ve been to over 53 countries), we wanted our househunting trip to be about places we would like to live (see criteria above), not necessarily about seeing additional wonders of the world. We’ve seen many of them already.

We listed the countries and built a super rough itinerary. We know this itinerary will 100% change, but we wanted to create some infrastructure and direction to our logistics. And truly, we just wanted to understand where we would need to book our first flight.

Here’s our itinerant idea.

Costa Rica El Salvador Guatemala Bolivia Colombia Belize Honduras Uruguay Australia New Zealand South Africa Japan Israel Italy Spain Portugal Mexico

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Yes, we know that this is not a straight line and we cross the equator a few times. But we organized this based on weather (we want to stay between 50-80 degrees), stay in each region for about 3 months, hopefully housesit many times, and discover the best of these areas. Thus, our “Where” was defined. A nomadic life was just one flight away.

But What Would We Do in Our Nomadic Life?

Finally, we worked on the “What” question. What would we be doing as we traveled? This part of the conversation went on for quite awhile and continues to evolve. For me, I’ll continue to write this blog, author books, and generally live a nomadic life writing when I want about whatever travel/nomad topic fits with our lifestyle.

Steve, on the other hand, has struggled with this question. Like me, he has worked his whole life and raised kids. I have gotten a jump on his retirement, settling into a schedule of hiking, writing, working out, cooking, parenting (for a bit longer), and making friends. He’s struggling with this. Perhaps he’ll create a consulting business, develop a love for surfing, or maybe even start a podcast. He doesn’t know, and I’m confident he’ll figure it out. So, “What” is pending. Nomadic retirement living was pending soon.

What Are We Doing Now While We Prepare for Nomad Life?

In the meantime, while Steve works, I’ve taken on two projects. One is my 50 Hikes 50 States Project, which coincidentally, allows us to gather more airline points, and also visiting other cities in the US we might want to retire to. If the international gig doesn’t work out, if the world implodes from COVID, or we find we just want to be in the US, we’re actively looking at different US cities (meeting the criteria above) in case we land back in the US for full-time living.

Needless to say, we have plans.

And they’ll change.

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